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Showing posts with label novena. Show all posts
Showing posts with label novena. Show all posts

Sunday, November 30, 2014

St. Andrew novena

I just wanted to post a reminder that the St. Andrew novena starts today, the feast of St. Andrew.  The prayer to the right is prayed 15 times each day from November 30 through Christmas.  DH and I usually pray all 15 prayers right before bed during our normal prayer time.  I've found it to be a nice way to quiet my mind and really reflect on the birth of Christ as we prepare to celebrate Christmas.  Even though it's a short prayer, I find myself focusing on a different phrase each day (like "in piercing cold"), which helps me imagine what it would have been like to be there.  I thought the timing this year is perfect because it's also the beginning of Advent, so we'll be praying by candlelight (from the Advent wreath).

DH and I have prayed the St. Andrew novena for the past few years.  I know some IFers have conceived after praying it, and I still pray that it might happen for us and others who are still waiting, but even if we don't conceive, it has become one of my favorite prayers and a family tradition.  (Family=DH+me)  :)

Two years ago I made a chaplet with 15 beads so I wouldn't have to count while we prayed.  If you'd like to make one, it's pretty easy to do.  I have no prior jewelry making experience...just taught myself from an online tutorial.  And the supplies aren't too expensive.


Happy Advent!

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Novena to Sts. Joachim and Anne

The feast day of Saints Joachim and Anne, the parents of the Blessed Virgin Mary and grandparents of Jesus, is coming up on July 26th.  They experienced infertility and were childless for twenty years.  (Twenty!  That certainly puts my five years in perspective...)  Their community snubbed them because they thought barrenness was a punishment from God.  As if infertility isn't isolating enough already!  One day Joachim went to the temple with the desire to offer sacrifice but he was not allowed to because he had no children.  Filled with shame and grief, he went off to the wilderness for forty days to fast and pray (and complain to God about being childless) where an angel visited him and told him he would have a daughter.  Back at home, Anne was begging God for a child when an angel visited her too and gave her the same news.  She was forty years old when the Virgin Mary was born.

If you'd like to pray the novena below, it starts tomorrow and goes through the day before their feast day.  All those struggling with IF or miscarriage are in my prayers.

Good parents of the Blessed Virgin Mary,
grandparents of our Savior, Jesus Christ,

When life seems barren,
   help us to trust in God’s mercy.

When we are confused,
   help us to find the way to God.

When we are lost in the desert,
   lead us to those whom God has called us to love.

When our marriage seems lifeless,
   show us the eternal youth of the Lord.

When we are selfish,
   teach us to cling only to that which lasts.

When we are afraid,
   help us to trust in God.

When we are ashamed,
   remind us that we are God’s children.

When we sin,
   lead us to do God’s will.

You who know God’s will for husband and wife,
   help us to live chastely.

You who know God’s will for the family,
   keep all families close to you.

You who suffered without children,
   intercede for all infertile couples.

You who trusted in God’s will,
   help us to respect God’s gift of fertility.

You who gave birth to the Blessed Mother,
   inspire couples to be co-creators with God.

You who taught the Mother of God,
   teach us to nurture children in holy instruction.

You whose hearts trusted in God,
   hear our prayers for . . . (mention your requests here)

Pray with us for the ministry of Catholic family life.
Pray with us for the ministry of Natural Family Planning.
Pray with us for all who give their time, talent and treasure to this good work.

Hail Mary. . . Our Father. . . Glory Be to the Father. . .

God of our fathers, you gave Saints Anne and Joachim the privilege of being the parents of Mary, the mother of your incarnate Son. May their prayers help us to attain the salvation you have promised to your people. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.

Source:  USCCB website

Saturday, November 30, 2013

St. Andrew novena

DH and I have prayed the St. Andrew novena for the past couple years.  I know some IFers have conceived after praying it, and I still pray that it might happen for us and others who are still waiting, but even if we don't conceive, it has become one of my favorite prayers and a new family tradition.  (Family=DH+me)  :)

It goes from November 30 (the feast of St. Andrew) to Christmas.  The prayer to the right is prayed 15 times each day.  We usually pray all 15 prayers right before bed during our normal prayer time.  I've found it to be a wonderful way to quiet my mind and really reflect on the birth of Christ as we prepare to celebrate Christmas.  Even though it's a short prayer, I find myself focusing on a different phrase each day (like "in piercing cold"), which helps me imagine what it would have been like to be there.  As we prayed it tonight, it felt like something was missing.  Then I realized that since Advent hasn't started yet, we didn't have the Advent wreath lit.  Just one day to go!  I love praying by candlelight.

Last year I made a chaplet so I wouldn't have to count while we prayed.   (Did I count that last one?  I wasn't paying attention.  Hmmm, better pray an extra one just in case I miscounted...)  I figured one less distraction during prayer would be good, and I wanted an excuse to pull out my rosary-making supplies.  I don't get to use them very often.  If you'd like to make one, it's pretty easy to do. (I have no prior jewelry making experience...just taught myself from an online tutorial.)  And the supplies aren't too expensive.


I know it's hard sometimes to remember to pray novenas.  If I didn't have DH prompting me at bedtime with, "It's time to pray," I would probably forget.  I found a free app that gives you the option to set a daily reminder to pray a (nine-day) novena.  It's called "eVotions -Bl. John Paul II."  The reminder is to pray a novena to JPII, but I'm going to use it for any novena.  Yay for modern technology.  :)

Friday, October 18, 2013

St. Jude novena

St. Jude is my patron saint this year, and his feast day is coming up on October 28.  I'm going to pray the novena below starting tomorrow and going through the 27th.  You are welcome to join me if you'd like or leave your intentions in the comments.  My intentions are for all those struggling with infertility or miscarriage and for DH to find a job.  I have a few special intentions also.




International Shrine of St. Jude in New Orleans

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

SA drama

Click on the image for the novena text.
The lab didn't do the semen culture on DH's sample.  We have to redo the seminal fluid collection.  :(  :(  :(

Here's the story...

Before Dr. K would decide on what treatment we might try next to combat my TEBB, she wanted to have a semen culture done to see if that would identify any other unwanted bugs that may be hanging around.  Her nurse mailed us the order (written on a prescription pad) along with the collection kit (unlubricated, perforated condom and a sterile container).  If ever you need a kit, you can order one from the PPVI Institute without a doctor's order for $20. 

I remember how we did the semen analysis (SA) two years ago.  Our city isn't that large, and there is only one clinic in town that does SAs.  That clinic requires the man to make an appointment when he will drop off his sample and spend five minutes with the nurse giving his medical history.  I called the clinic to make the appointment.  The receptionist said they would not accept the paper order I was holding in my hand; she said the clinic had a specific order form that Dr. K would have to fill out and fax to them directly.  I hoped that this extra step would ensure that the semen culture would be done because I was a bit worried they would miss that request and just perform the regular SA with counts, morphology, etc.  After some back and forth with PPVI, they confirmed that they had faxed the order to the clinic here.

I called the clinic again to make the appointment.  Surprisingly the receptionist asked me if DH was going to collect his specimen in the clinic or if he would be bringing it in.  I guess we're not the only ones to do the collection at home, although I'm not sure how many people actually use a kit so it can be done through a "normal" act of intercourse.  (Using a perforated condom is anything but normal...)  The receptionist said we were to abstain for at least two days prior to collection, but no more that four days.  (PPVI had told us to abstain for at least four days.  I was going to follow PPVI's recommendation over the local clinic's recommendation.)  The receptionist also reminded me that the specimen should arrive at the clinic within about 30 minutes and should be kept at body temperature during transportation.  The clinic is five minutes away, so we figured this wouldn't be a problem.

We were ten minutes late for the appointment.  The collection itself was awful.  I was extremely relieved that we had a specimen to take to the clinic.  We brought the paper order along that PPVI had originally sent us.  I told DH to show it to the nurse and remind her that we needed a culture done.  He did that.  The nurse said it would be no problem and kept the paper order just in case.

We did the collection post-peak, so I decided to wait until our next cycle review to ask PPVI for the results.  (Actually I did call the local clinic to see if we could get the results over the phone like I did two years ago, but the nurse said we had to get the results from Dr. K.  Can't blame a girl for trying.)  I suppose a little waiting never hurt anyone.  ;)

When I received the cycle review e-mail, the nurse said our clinic had not done the culture.  She didn't have any results to share with me--not even the sperm count, etc.  She said Dr. K had spoken with the medical director at the local clinic to find out 1) why they never told Dr. K they couldn't do a culture since they had her request in their hands (on THEIR form!) far in advance and 2) why they never told DH they couldn't do a culture.  The director told Dr. K that their clinic doesn't do semen cultures and that we (meaning DH or me) would have had to have coordinated with the local hospital lab (totally unaffiliated with this clinic) to arrange for the culture to have been done there.  How were we to know this?  Dr. K was really frustrated.  DH and I are really frustrated.

I called the medical director to find out what kind of arrangements would have to be made and whom I should call at the hospital.  After a few days of messages left on various voicemails and then some phone tag, the medical director called me back.  It was bright and early in the morning when I wasn't exactly awake and fully lucid.  (Mornings are not my best time.)  He said that in his twenty years as a doctor, he had never heard of anyone ordering a semen culture.  He said there's no link between infertility and infection, and a culture wouldn't tell you anything useful.  He said he was under the impression that he had talked Dr. K out of ordering a culture.  No, Dr. IVF, you didn't talk her out of it!  She, unlike you, actually wants to fix the underlying problem(s) in our infertility.  And if you want to be intellectually lazy and not bother to investigate the newest discoveries in the treatment of infertility, that's your business.  Thankfully not all doctors think like you.  (I did acknowledge to him that the connection between infection/endometritis and infertility is not widely known among mainstream doctors, and he agreed.)  I told him that Dr. K had helped couples conceive by treating their infections.  I almost told him to look up Dr. Toth online so he could learn about how infection is related to IF.  But I realized that I still needed his help if I wanted to have this culture done, so I bit my tongue and limited my comments so as not to antagonize him.  I explained that I had symptoms of an on-going infection, so the culture would hopefully help identify the bacteria involved because the endometrial culture I had done was only partially helpful. 

He then reluctantly shared the information he had.  He had spoken with two different doctors from the hospital's microbiology lab.  They have never done a semen culture.  I really had no idea that this was an unusual test to order...  They are unwilling to do a semen culture because they don't have a protocol to do one (and there were two other reasons that I don't remember because I wasn't really awake).  He suggested that I try calling the independent lab in town to see if they could do it.  I'm wasn't holding my breath, because if the hospital can't or won't figure out how to do it, the independent lab sounded even less promising.  And yeah, after calling them, they won't do it either.  :P

The nearest larger city where there might be a chance of getting the culture done is over an hour away.  So we'd have to stay overnight in a hotel to make that happen.  And that's if I found a lab who could accommodate this request.  The other option would be to try to find a lab in the even-larger city where my parents live and do the collection while visiting them.  It's not ideal, obviously, but it seemed more feasible than the hotel option.

I called the big hospital's lab about twenty minutes from my parents' house that I've used for blood draws in the past.  The person who answered the phone was quite knowledgeable and was able to confirm rather quickly that their lab could do the culture.  I even asked her how they would do it--to double check that she understood what I was asking for.  She said they'd treat it like any other "reproductive culture," let it grow on a plate for two days, and identify all bacteria that grew (if any).  What was even better was that we could drop off the sample at any time 24/7.  No appointment!!!  Actually, DH doesn't even have to come along.  I can drop off the sample myself (which will be much less conspicuous...no need to explain to my parents where I'm going.)  ;)  PPVI sent us another kit, so I hope everything works out this time.

After asking again, I did get the results from the first SA that was run locally.  All DH's numbers were normal.  They were actually better than the numbers from two years ago (which were also normal.)  At least one of us has a correctly-functioning reproductive system.  Although I told him he probably needs to have super sperm to overcome whatever is wrong on my end, hostile uterus included...  ;)

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Novena to St. Gianna

Painting of St. Gianna at the
Shrine of Lady of Guadalupe
in La Crosse, WI
St. Gianna's feast day is coming up on April 28th.  She is a much-beloved patron saint of infertility.  The miracle which led to her canonization happened to a woman who was 16 weeks pregnant.  Her placenta tore, and the amniotic fluid drained out.  The doctors said the baby had no chance of survival.  Through the intercession of St. Gianna, the baby was born healthy.  The mother named the little girl Gianna.  (She turns 13 next month.)

I'm going to pray a novena to St. Gianna for all those waiting to hold children of their own in their arms.  I'll be praying for all the lovely ladies who have IF blogs (that I know of), a few IRL acquaintances and clients, everyone in the FB group, and anyone who reads my blog.  If you don't have a blog (or if you do) and you'd like me to pray for you by name, please leave your name and any information about yourself you'd like to share in the comments.  Or you can e-mail me; see the e-mail tab above.  While many of you are praying for me this month for Adopt-A-Blogger, I would like to pray for all of you.

The novena is below.  It starts on Friday, April 19 and ends on April 27.

(Interesting random fact of the day:  Did you know that the number nine is the number of imperfection (ten is perfect), so it's fitting that a novena lasts nine days because it is "man's imperfection turned in prayer to God?"  St. Jerome said, "The number nine in Holy Writ is indicative of suffering and grief."  source    I didn't know that before today.)

Novena To Obtain Graces Through Saint Gianna Beretta Molla

God, our Father, You have granted to Your church the gift of Gianna Beretta Molla. In her youth she lovingly sought You and drew other young people to You, involving them, through apostolic witness and Catholic Action, in the care of the sick and aged, to help and comfort them.

We thank You for the gift of this young woman, so deeply committed to You. Through her example grant us the grace to consecrate our lives to Your service, for the joy of our brothers and sisters.

Glory be …

Jesus, Redeemer of mankind, You called Saint Gianna to exercise the medical profession as a mission for the comfort of bodies and souls. In her suffering fellow men and in the little ones, deprived of all support, she saw You.

We thank You for having revealed Yourself to this servant as “one who serves” and who soothes the sufferings of men. Treasuring her example may we become generous Christians at the service of our brothers and sisters, especially those with whom You deign to share Your Cross.

Glory be…

God, Sanctifying Spirit, who love the Church as Your Bride, You poured into the heart of Saint Gianna a share of Your Love so that she could radiate it in her family, and thus cooperate with You in the wonderful plan of creation, and give life to new children who could know and love You.

We thank You for this model wife and, through her encouraging witness, we beg You to grant to our families the serene and Christian presence of mothers committed to transform their homes into cenacles of faith and love, rich with generous activity and sanctifying service.

Glory be…

O God, Creator and lover of mankind, You were close to Saint Gianna when, affected by illness, she was in the painful dilemma of choosing between her own life and the life of the child whom she was carrying in herself, a gift long-awaited. Trusting You alone, and aware of Your Commandment to respect human life, Gianna found the courage to do her duty as a mother and to say “yes” to the new life of her baby, generously sacrificing her own. Through the intercession of Mary, Mother of Jesus, and after the example of Gianna, inspire all mothers to welcome with love the sparkle of new life. Grant us the grace we are praying for …………. and the joy to find an inspiration in Saint Gianna who, as a model spouse and mother, after the example of Christ, gave up her life for the life of others.

Hail Mary…

Monday, January 14, 2013

Novena for the unborn

I'm a little late in posting this, but I wanted to share this novena that goes from January 14 to January 22, the anniversary of Roe v. Wade.  I think as IFers our prayers and sufferings offered for the unborn and for an end to abortion are especially powerful.  I sometimes think of the experience of IF as (unchosen) fasting for those who choose abortion.

Prayer for Life by Fr. Frank Pavone

God and Father of Life, You have created every human person and have opened the way for each to have eternal life. We live in the shadow of death.  Tens of millions of your children have been killed because of the Roe vs. Wade decision legalizing abortion.  Father, have mercy on us.  Heal our land and accept our offering of prayer and penance.  In your love for us, turn back the scourge of abortion.  May each of us exult in hearts full of hope and hands full of mercy and work together to build a culture of life.  We pray through Christ our Lord.  Amen.

I'm looking forward to attending the March for Life this year in DC.  I've wanted to go for a long time, and logistics finally worked out, so this will be my first time (DH's too).

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Novena to Sts. Joachim and Anne

The feast of Saints Joachim and Anne, the parents of the Blessed Virgin Mary, is coming up on July 26th, so DH and I decided to pray a novena asking for their intercession for us and for all couples facing IF or miscarriage.
Good parents of the Blessed Virgin Mary,
grandparents of our Savior, Jesus Christ,

When life seems barren,
   help us to trust in God’s mercy.

When we are confused,
   help us to find the way to God.

When we are lost in the desert,
   lead us to those whom God has called us to love.

When our marriage seems lifeless,
   show us the eternal youth of the Lord.

When we are selfish,
   teach us to cling only to that which lasts.

When we are afraid,
   help us to trust in God.

When we are ashamed,
   remind us that we are God’s children.

When we sin,
   lead us to do God’s will.

You who know God’s will for husband and wife,
   help us to live chastely.

You who know God’s will for the family,
   keep all families close to you.

You who suffered without children,
   intercede for all infertile couples.

You who trusted in God’s will,
   help us to respect God’s gift of fertility.

You who gave birth to the Blessed Mother,
   inspire couples to be co-creators with God.

You who taught the Mother of God,
   teach us to nurture children in holy instruction.

You whose hearts trusted in God,
   hear our prayers for . . . (mention your requests here)

Pray with us for the ministry of Catholic family life.
Pray with us for the ministry of Natural Family Planning.
Pray with us for all who give their time, talent and treasure to this good work.

Hail Mary. . . Our Father. . . Glory Be to the Father. . .

God of our fathers, you gave Saints Anne and Joachim the privilege of being the parents of Mary, the mother of your incarnate Son. May their prayers help us to attain the salvation you have promised to your people. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.

Source:  USCCB website